Part 1: You
were asked to engage in a conversation for 15 minutes where you were not
allowed to use any version of a symbolic language (no speaking, writing, or
ASL).
Holding a conversation with someone when you are
unable to speak or use any other form of symbolic language (writing, sign
language, texting) makes the conversation very difficult. In my efforts to
communicate without speech, I turned to a form of charades and hand
gestures. This was hilarious to my family,
who had never experienced this with me before.
However, to me it was extremely aggravating as I had difficulty in
conveying my message. I have to say my
family was very patient and paid very close attention. This project turned more
into a game than a conversation. The
various members of my family had complete control of the conversation as my
input was limited. They controlled the
topic of discussion and I did my best to contribute. The conversation turned superficial as it was
almost impossible to discuss anything to difficult. By the end of the 15 minutes, the only thing
accomplished was a good laugh at my expense. I’m sure, if for some reason one
of us could no longer communicate via speech, writing or sign language, we
would work out a system that would allow us to communicate.
In a scenario where two separate cultures, one using
speech and the other that doesn’t, the culture that could speak would definitely
have the advantage in explaining complex ideas. The speaking culture would
become impatient with the other culture because speaking is a much more
efficient way of conveying ideas, where other means of communication take more time
and effort. Deaf Individuals in our
culture have difficulty with spoken language.
In my previous profession I had a great many experiences attempting to
communicate with deaf individuals. At
first, it can be very difficult to communicate, however necessity prevails, and
through greater adaptability on their part than mine, we eventually would be
able to communicate with one another. They were very patient with me and both
of us would put forth the effort to adapt.
The most important aspect was understanding and patience. If patience is
shown, and the effort is mutual, the language barrier can be overcome.
Part 2: You
were asked to spend 15 minutes communicating without any physical
embellishments, i.e., no hand signals, not vocal intonation, not head, facial,
or body movements.
Holding a conversation with someone when you are
unable to show any type of physical embellishments (facial expression, hand
signals or body movements) or emotion (vocal intonation) is very difficult, but
not quite as difficult as the first experiment (no speech, writing, symbolic
language or sign language). The conversation was easier than the first because
we could still understand each other, but monitoring and trying to curb my
facial expression was daunting. Immediately, I failed this experiment by
raising my eyebrows when communicating.
I never really considered how much I embellish my speech with facial
cues and vocal intonation. Communicating
without vocal intonation does not really provide the proper message intended. Vocal intonation is common to several of the
languages that I have studied. It is necessary to distinguish a statement from
a question, to convey exclamation or alarm.
It is necessary for survival, ex., “There is something big over there,” in
comparison to, “THERE IS SOMETHING BIG OVER THERE!”
My partners in this experiment weren’t affected by my
lack of intonation or expression during our conversation because they knew it
was a project, however, had this been a real life conversation, there would be
the great potential of them feeling annoyed, or that I was annoyed with them,
they might feel unappreciated or under-valued.
I feel without the ability to use facial expression or vocal intonation
in particular I felt very impersonal and robotic.
The use of signs in our language is extremely important.
Body language and especially facial expression is a large part in understanding
one another. Facial expression, eye contact or avoiding eye contact, nervous
gestures (constantly shifting one’s weight, wringing of one’s hands, looking
around while talking) etc. are all very important in the interpretation of one’s
message and intent. Some people don’t pick up on body language as easily as
others, however I believe this is a crucial tool for properly interpreting one’s
true message. The benefit of reading
body language is a key to our daily lives.
As children, I am sure most of us knew a certain look from our parent
meant our current behavior had better cease.
If you see someone approaching you with a menacing look on their face
and their body is tense, these could be cues that trouble is afoot. It is important to be aware of one’s own body
language as well. You would not want to
avoid eye contact and yawn while being interviewed for a wanted position. You wouldn’t want to nervously fidget, cross
your arms and look around constantly when being questioned by the authorities
investigating a crime. You wouldn’t want
to convey an apathetic look or one of disinterest when approached by someone
you have a romantic interest in.
People with alexithymia have difficulty or the
inability to read and interpret body language.
They have difficulty in distinguishing and appreciating the emotions of
others, which is thought to lead to empathic and ineffective emotional
responding. I personally have not had
any contact with this difficulty. Personally
I cannot see a benefit in not being able read another’s body language as even
those who intend to lie or provide inaccurate information often give off clue’s
to their deceit.